Seventy Seven Strangers.

I thought this post was beyond awesome, so I figured I'd share....
It's called "Love, love & more of it..."
http://seventysevenstrangers.com/2010/03/25/love-love-and-more-of-it/

This was taken from a blog written by some very talented guys by the name of "Seventy Seven Strangers"
...This particular post was written by Pete.
I encourage you to check out the rest of their blog, I guarantee you won't regret it =)
http://seventysevenstrangers.com/

Men.

When I was young, I used to
Watch behind the curtains
As men walked up and down the street. Wino men, old men.
Young men sharp as mustard.
See them. Men are always
Going somewhere.
They knew I was there. Fifteen
Years old and starving for them.
Under my window, they would pauses,
Their shoulders high like the
Breasts of a young girl,
Jacket tails slapping over
Those behinds,
Men.

One day they hold you in the
Palms of their hands, gentle, as if you
Were the last raw egg in the world. Then
They tighten up. Just a little. The
First squeeze is nice. A quick hug.
Soft into your defenselessness. A little
More. The hurt begins. Wrench out a
Smile that slides around the fear. When the
Air disappears,
Your mind pops, exploding fiercely, briefly,
Like the head of a kitchen match. Shattered.
It is your juice
That runs down their legs. Staining their shoes.
When the earth rights itself again,
And taste tries to return to the tongue,
Your body has slammed shut. Forever.
No keys exist.

Then the window draws full upon
Your mind. There, just beyond
The sway of curtains, men walk.
Knowing something.
Going someplace.
But this time, I will simply
Stand and watch.

Maybe...
(Written by Maya Angelou)

"I want the title..."

So I've recently learned that this whole relationship issue is a pretty hot topic. From my understanding, there is a certain amount of "time" that must past before one is able to fully commit, title & all. So of course my wandering mind led me to ask this question: How long should 2 people wait before giving it the title?

I found that men were more hesitant when posed with this question. When asked why, of course I was bombarded with b.s. answers like: "I have to make sure my mother approves" or even worse "I just want to make sure she isn't hiding anything". Bullshit. It doesn't take years or even months to figure out if someone has secrets. But what was even more interesting than the male response, was of course that from my fellow ladies. Suprisingly, most females seemed to be on the fence about the issue. Honestly I thought women would be more willing to rush into a relationship, but on the contrary when asked, ladies were more content with casual dating without any titles. More women today are satisfied with just being friends. Now don't get me wrong, that long term goal of one day meeting Mr. Right still exists, but we are now more comfortable with having options. It was almost strange to me because we're so used to women being portrayed as somewhat needy & always willing to submit quite easily...oh my have the tables turned. Very few women are looking for serious relationships these days, I wonder why... 0_o
I digress.
Most people would agree that a certain amount of time should pass before you make things what we like to call official, but what exactly is that amount? Some say 3 months, others say 3 years, but seriously, how can we put a definite period of time or a solid amount on getting to know someone? With that being said, there is no alotted time that 2 people should take to get to know one another. Every relationship/situation is different. Some people feel as though they've known enough about a person after a week or 1 month & others may never feel like they know a person at all. I guess it all depends on the people. I think its pretty silly for people to put an actual time stamp on a situation or "series of circumstances" before they can commit, BUT in the same breath, I do believe that a relationship title gives some form of security for those less secure than others...but that's another issue for another day.

Not only was it interesting to hear everyone else's responses & opinions, but this also allowed me to assess my own thoughts on the subject. Honestly I've never given it too much thought until now.

Master.

Lines of communication; disastrous
caused by 1 or 2 simplistic actions
but every action promotes a reaction
times moving slow like molasses
now all we keep asking is what happened
"what happened?"
oh you ain't know? shorty's an actress
she'll do whatever to make it happen
& now I'm sitting here laughing
on to the next one, macking
this is my ship & I am the captain
I'm calling plays. I decide what happens.

Us.

I never imagined the day I'd be without you
Longing for the days when it was just us
No heartache
No pressure
No rush
Time was ours
Our love had so much power
Spending all of our time
Seconds. Minutes.
Down to the hour
What it was, was real
I could always touch my heart and feel what I felt for you
My love was never untrue
Anything I wanted, you would do
Forget hanging with my crew
All I wanted was you
Us.
But its gone
Now everythings a fuss
No more trust
That beautiful thing that we once had
That bond between us
Broken
So many words unspoken
Tears ppouring down my face & I'm choking
Trying to find the right words to say
To get things back that way
& I pray
But there's no right path
No blueprint to show us today
what happens tomorrow
So for now I'll just borrow
or maybe steal from the memories
of how we used to feel
Because there's nothing or no one
that can tell me that us wasn't real

Before & After

Before I couldn't even listen to a love song
every song felt so long
reminscing on a love gone wrong
the sight of it was beautiful
a feeling I was proud to ever know
an emotion so tender like the first break of snow
on a winter day
Before..
I was scared to ever feel that way
moment after moment
never going away
something emebedded in my heart
from the start-to finish
when feelings diminished
even after love
my heart was still in it
Before & after love...
my heart was in training from the beginning.