Diary of a Good Black Woman.

When you’re a good woman, there’s no purpose in running around saying that there are no good men. I’ve learned that if you at least have the potential to offer all the things you expect from a good man & actually realize it, you’ll find one. There is indeed an overpopulation of less than good quality men, but that’s exactly what makes the good guys so much more superior. I appreciate the fact that there is a small number of men who compliment all the qualities of an amazing woman. I respect the chase & quite frankly, I enjoy it….

If a perfect guy just appeared out of thin air, needless to say, I’d probably take him for granted. Most women aren’t fully aware of everything they NEED in their counterpart anyway, so to even make the shallow statement “there are no good men” is hypocrisy all in itself.
The average woman has to make sacrifices & accept certain things in life in order to be satisfied…& this is no exception.
We want to believe that we’ll fall in love with the first guy we ever liked or that our high school sweethearts will propose & confess his undying love, but the truth is, that’s just not the way things work. Those of us who do end up with our ‘first love’ are lucky & it is indeed a beautiful thing, but the real life cycle of unadulterated love takes time. It is a cycle that doesn’t happen overnight. We date, men court us & if we’re lucky we’re allowed the experience of a relationship to take with us on to the next stage…
But every relationship doesn’t lead to marriage or never ending happiness & for a good woman, this is just practice.
The concept is not complex; hard work pays off, & that is the only rule to this love game. Good people need no promotion, we’re made for each other & with time & a little patience we’ll find one another.

Signed,
A Good Woman.